The Facts About Drug Addicted Children
Jun 6th, 2010 by Patrick

While talking about children who are drug addicted is a very sensitive issue it is one that really does need to be discussed. This article will focus on drug addicted children and what can be done about it. This is a very serious issue and an issue that cannot be just swept under the rug. Children are supposed to have a carefree, happy and safe life, but what happens when that child becomes addicted to drugs. This article will cover both children being born with drug addictions and also children who develop a drug addiction during their childhood years.

A serious epidemic that has always seem to be present is children being born already addicted to drugs. This is a sad and harsh way for a child to enter the world. This can happen if the mother is taking illegal drugs or consuming alcohol during her pregnancy. A mother addicted to drugs will pretty much lead to a child being born fighting a drug addiction. Not only will the child have to face the withdrawal from the mother’s drug of choice, they may also be born with birth defects. Some of these birth defects can include developmental issues, behavioral issues, being born without fully developed arms and legs, or sometimes the can be born with clubfoot. Cleft palate and very low birth weight are also possible side effects. Fetal Alcohol syndrome is another scary possibility for babies being born to mothers who consume alcohol during their pregnancy. Babies who are born with a drug addiction will go through the same withdrawal process that anyone would. Really seems unfair to bring a child into this world, who has to struggle to stay alive. The key to preventing this from happening is education. There is so much documented literature available that no baby should be born this way. Seeking medical and professional help is crucial. Another key to preventing this is simple, do not use any illegal substance or consume alcohol while you are pregnant. All pregnant women should be receiving prenatal care.

Let’s look at the situation where children become addicted to drugs on their own. Statics do show that children who are raised in home where drug and alcohol use are present are much more likely to develop a drug or alcohol addiction. If you are raising children in a home where you or someone in your family is suffering from addiction, it is vital to seek professional help. Not only for your child, but for your own health as well. Children need to be educated and taught the dangers of drugs. As your child grows older and starts attending school, it is inevitable that your child will be faced with peer pressure. You are the tools that your child needs to stay away from drugs.

What if you suspect that your child is under the influence of drugs or alcohol? The first step is to talk to your child, confront them about this. You will probably need to seek professional help as well. Ignoring the situation will not make it go away, it will probably only escalate and get worse. Your child’s doctor should be able to help you understand treatments and things you can do to help get your child off drugs. It is very sad to see and hear about all the death of children that can be linked to the use of drugs. Children are very impressionable, so keep this in mind in all activities you do. Spend time talking with your kids and make sure they know the risks of using drugs. Seek out help soon, the sooner the better. Do not delay when it comes to a drug addicted child.

Overcoming an Addiction to Pain through Getting Help
Jun 6th, 2010 by Patrick

How can you overcome an addiction to pain and get help for your problem?  What is a pain addiction anyway?

Many people who have troubled lives or troubled emotional states will engage in different acts of self mutilation or bring self inflicted wounds upon themselves.  They might do this for a few different reasons at first, but the reason that it becomes addictive is because it is like a drug.

Many people who do this eventually end up cutting themselves because it is a rush to see the blood flow out of their bodies.  This is a rush in two ways for some pain addicts: one, they have become conditioned to get emotionally high from seeing the sight of the blood, but two, they become excited by seeing the blood because it is symbolic of suicide.  Most people in this position have thoughts of suicide and cutting is a way to sort of edge up against that and play with the idea.

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First, understand that anyone who is doing things like this is in real danger and they need to get professional help.  Cutters who have just been toying with the idea of suicide have accidentally slipped over the edge in some cases.  This is tragic and not necessary if they would seek help for their cutting addiction.

If the threat is immediate to themselves then the best place for them is a psychiatric hospital.  Many people think there is a huge stigma attached to such places but this is an old way of thinking and is not necessary anymore.  Many people experience mental problems and issues and it is a great sign of strength to actually face these problems and seek help for them.  Going to a psychiatric ward is a very powerful choice, so don’t feel bad or stigmatized because you are checking into a psych ward.  That is an old and outdated way of thinking.

So how will you get help in the long run, and avoid self harm in the future?  This is based on creating a new life for yourself and recovering from these bad behaviors.  You need to replace the negativity in your life with positive things.  You need to create goals and passion in your life that is worth building towards.  You need to create enough positive experiences in your life that they can overcome your desire to get that rush through self inflicted pain.

This can take time and a lot of work.  Do not expect for everything to change overnight.  If it all get better overnight, then that would not be worth much, because then it could get so much worse in just a quick amount of time.  No, this is a long, slow process of recovery.  Expect it to be long and challenging.

You can get help in many ways.  Counseling and seeing a therapist is probably one of the best things you can do for yourself on a regular basis.  If you have one but do not trust them or really click with them, then you should find a new one.

Group support may be helpful as well, for some people.  If you have been to a psychiatric facility then they probably have follow up groups, support groups, or meetings schedules that allow you to interact with other people who are on the same journey that you are on.  This can be extremely helpful in getting ongoing support for your condition.

It may be dark in the early days of your recovery.  It might seem like it is not worth it to go on living like this, with no way to medicate anymore.  It does get better eventually.  Stick it out, and some day you will love your life again.

The History Of Addiction
Jun 6th, 2010 by Patrick

The history of addiction goes back thousands of years. My name is Betty Stewart and this is my story. The addiction that runs in my family is alcoholism. My mom and my Grandmother are alcoholics. I remember my mom telling me stories about how she was treated by my grandmother when she was younger. Things like getting cursed out for asking for food, because she was hungry but my grandmother would rather spend the money on alcohol. Things like being left alone in the house at night at an really young age so her mother could go out and drink at night. Things like not waking up in the morning to get her to school so so she missed a lot of school because of this. Mom mother was hit by my grandmother when she was extremely drunk for no reason at all.

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My grandmother would tell my mother that she was just like her and would never amount to any thing in life, because she was ugly and stupid. This abuse got worse when my grandmother marred another alcoholic and a crack user, when my mom was 9 years old. He quickly started mistreating my mom. My grandmother pretty much let him do what ever he wanted to as long as she had her alcohol because at this time she was not working. One night my mom said that she was woke up from a hand touching her leg and it was her step dad. He was clearly drunk was mumbling words like ” If you tell I will kill you”. My mom said she was scared so she was quiet and he began abusing her and did so for 5 years. 

At age 14 my moms life had not got any better my grandmother was worse drinking almost a gallon of vodka a day and at least one bottle of wine. My grandmother had alcohol poisoning at least 6 times in the last 3 years. My mom was sick if the abuse from her step dad also and he was fed up. So that is when my mom started to drink at first she would just drink socially with friends and stuff to get away form her hell of a house. Then it got to the point where she needed a drink every day. She said being drunk erased the pain. At the age of 16 my mom left home and lived with an older friend who had their own apartment. My mom never went back to my grandmother’s. My moms friend drank but she also used heroin so my mom soon was an alcoholic and a heroin addict. My mom became a dancer to support her habits. By the time my mom was 19 she has been arrested 6 times and had done 2 years in jail. But she kept relapsing on the drugs and alcohol. When my mom was 20 she got pregnant with me. She said that that when she wanted to get clean because she did not want me to go through the same things she did in her childhood but that was not the case.

So yes my mother stayed an alcoholic and is still one to this very day. I however was put up for adoption by my birth mother she says so i would not go through what she went through. I had a pretty good life growing up. So when I turned 18 and felt I was ready I found my birth mom and she told me the story on her life and her history and why she had to make such a hard decision. Millions of family’s are affected by addictions every day. Some never get help and some recover. Either way it is a struggle and I’m glad my Birth mother decided to give me up then put me through what she goes through but I’m also happy that I can educate my children on addiction and its dangers by knowing first hand.

The Best Advice on How to Live with an Addict and Convince them To Seek Recovery from Addiction
Jun 6th, 2010 by Patrick

If you live with an addict, what is the best advice on how to convince them to seek recovery from addiction?

Is it even possible to force an addict to get the help that they desperately need, but may not realize that they should pursue?

What can you say to them that will help to make your argument and state your case?

Let’s take a closer look.

First of all, if you live with the addict that you are trying to help, then you are probably enabling them in some fashion, even if you do think that you are.  In some cases, simply by staying in the situation with the addict you are allowing them to continue to use drugs, whereas you might be able to force a change by simply removing your support altogether.  This can be difficult to do, especially if you love the person and want to support them and help them.  But sometimes when we think we are helping someone, we are only keeping them stuck in their addiction.

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Look at the way that an addict is motivated.  They are motivated only by pain.  This is not an intuitive conclusion, because all of us know that we can be motivated by positive things as well.

But addiction changes all that.  Once the addict is caught up in a cycle of addiction, they are no longer motivated by seeking the pleasure of their drug of choice.  This is the illusion that they tell themselves, this is part of their denial.  No, once they are trapped in addiction, the only motivation they really have is pain.  They take their drug of choice in order to avoid more pain, either emotional, physical, or both.

The addict is suffering in pain, and they medicate this with drugs and alcohol.  They are driven by fear and their lives are full of pain.

The addict is also terrified of sobriety.  They are afraid to get clean and sober and face the unknown.  It is a huge, massive fear in their heart.  They will probably not admit to this, so don’t try to argue with them about it.  But make no mistake: they are scared to get clean.

Now here is the key:

The addict will choose to get clean only when the pain they experience in addiction becomes greater than their fear of sobriety.

Think about that for a moment.  The addict is scared to get clean.  At the same time, they are experiencing pain due to their addiction.  But they cannot make that move and ask for help until the pain becomes great enough.

Their fear will remain constant.  They were born with that certain amount of fear; it is hard-wired into them.  Their level of fear about recovery is not going to change.

Therefore, the only thing that can really motivate the addict to get clean and sober is more pain in their life.

If you are helping them in any way that lessens their pain, then you are actually hurting their chances at recovery.

That does not mean you have to try to deliberately hurt them or make their life more miserable.  They can do that themselves.  You just need to stop rescuing them in ways that alleviate their pain.  This takes them further away from the moment of surrender when they might choose to finally recover.

Convincing an addict to take action does not happen when you “get lucky and say just the right thing.”  That is not how it works at all.  It happens when the addict has finally had enough pain in their life, and they realize that drugs can not really make it better anymore (even though they once did).

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